We all know the feeling you have when you break up with your girlfriend, you kind of feel lost
and emotionally upset. Then of course you naturally start thinking of ways to get her back, which
sometimes can lead to desperate actions.
The next thing you do is try and call her, then when she fails to pick up you begin to feel
rejected. This rejection can then further lead to even more desperate actions.
One thing after another can lead to making even more mistakes, making the possibility of getting
back with your ex even more challenging. The first critical step you need to take is to take some
time out. Do not call your ex just let things settle down.
The next important step is to try and talk over your relationship with friends. If you have mutual
friends then that can be more helpful, especially if they have been in contact with your ex. Your
objective is to act responsibly to find out what went wrong.
Step number three, because you have not called and are figuring out what is going on and what to do
next, time is elapsing giving you greater ability to think straight and continue with your life as
you figure this stuff out.
In this there is maturity, you want to do what's best. Because you have not called your ex she will
get the true impression that you are figuring things out, and there is always the fear that she may
lose you because you decide that it is not worth getting back together.
As mentioned often breakups get to be a test to see if one or the other is truly committed to the
relationship. If either party feels that they could lose the other then the behavior can begin to
change.
To conclude as your head clears and you start to get back to straight thinking you can then call
your ex. When you do communicate, do not immediately talk about the relationship, first talk in
general then put a time constraint on it and say you will call again or maybe meet for coffee or let
her make that move but more importantly make it easy for them to make the move.
